Stay-at-home dads

There are two articles this week on trophy/stay-at-home dads.

I don’t suspect this trend to increase, but it is interesting from a game perspective. Increasingly, marriage is only for the rich. These sorts of relationships only seem to happen in the way-upper class.

I’ve known two stay-at-home fathers. Both have been staying at home for years and it seems to be working well for both. Neither of them are betas, by any stretch. They both work hard to be manly (the trick seems to be working out a lot and being careful to spend significant amounts of time with other men). If you read the articles carefully, that should come across:

These women are not who you think they are. Yes, they are tough and ambitious and competitive. But they are not ball-busters. And their husbands are not wimps. They are physicists, lawyers, engineers, marketing executives, and Navy pilots. These couples usually started out in even-steven, dual-career marriages. Most never imagined such role reversal; in fact, many of the women assumed their careers would take a back seat to their husbands’.

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The household arrangements these couples have created are simultaneously radical and conservative. Yes, the men and women have traded places. But they have divided their labor quite traditionally. There is a back-to-the-future quality to their domestic relations, a reversion to notions of work and home right out of the 1950s. Except for one big difference: The 21st-century organization man could very easily be a woman. And the corporate wife could be a husband.

My wife makes about 25% more than I do (though my benefits are way better and she went to law school, so I’m still way ahead overall).

The trick to making these sorts of imbalanced relationships work is: game.

I think most women that have these great jobs need to be submissive somewhere in their lives. I think they’re happy to be that way at home.