Self-assessment

I’m not much for talking about myself or doing self-assessments. Perhaps these practices are good, but in our society they’re over-utilized and they’re not really my style.

However in the last two months, we’ve entered a new decade, I turned 30, and I have a new son. These sorts of events tend to make one take stock. In today’s world, it’s impossible to know when adulthood starts (if it ever starts), but it would seem that by nearly all (modern) definitions, I’ve entered it.

In short, I’ve basically done what a person is supposed to do. I did well in school, I went to a good university, I got a job, I got married, I bought a house and I had a kid. (I probably "should" have gone to grad school, but I couldn’t handle any more school. It would have taken too much time away from actually learning things).

I couldn’t be happier with my immediate family and I hope it continues growing. I wasn’t particularly excited about having a newborn around, but the little guy has been great so far. I was prepared for the worst, but so far, parenting has been much easier than I was led to believe. We’ve even been sleeping normally. I suspect we’ll have some difficult decisions to make as the family grows. I don’t want my kids in DC public schools or in the snotty DC private schools. That may mean cutting back if my wife stops working or moving.

My extended family is generally boring too. My grandparents on both sides had a combined total of 9 children. All of them are married, and 8 of 9 have been married only once.

In general, I’d like to read more, exercise more, and eat better. We’ll see what happens in the new year – I’ve never been much of a goal-setter. If something needs doing, I do it.

I like my job. It gives me a chance to work on important stuff, but still maintain a normal life outside of work. It’s also nice that I can’t be fired. They may be killing off the middle class, but I’ve done a decent job replicating a somewhat old fashioned sort of job that let’s me make a decent living without spending too much time at the office. John Derbyshire advises people to get government jobs. I think he’s spot on. At some point, I may have to decide whether to move into management – that will be a tough decision.

I have a few really close friends in DC and a few others that I keep in touch with regularly. That’s always been enough for me.

Perhaps this path is peculiarly boring, but it’s worked very well. I’m generally a happy guy, even though I believe civilization is crumbling around me. I think it’s too bad that more people don’t follow the boring path. It’s certainly not right for everyone, but I think that for most people it’s better than the generic "finding yourself" alternative. I keep expecting to get bored or resentful that I didn’t do something unusually, but that hasn’t happened so far.

In sum, don’t expect more posts about my life. It’s boring, so there’s not much to say. I like it that way.

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5 Responses to Self-assessment

  1. Samson says:

    This post leaves me feeling oddly stupid, because I want to comment on it; it enlivens in me some sort of feeling of solidarity with you; but I don’t quite know what to say.

  2. RS says:

    Well, the life of the intellectual is hardly boring but it’s not very… narrable. The intellectual couldn’t write about himself and his life, he can only write about his subject (or, when he is still a student, subjects). Narrability of his life is one of the main things he sacrifices to the love of his subject, and, in fact, whole factions of entire peoples – even determinative fractions – could participate in such a transaction. They probably shouldn’t…

  3. RS says:

    As far as actual assessment I’d say your writing is quite interesting.

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