We’re looking into day-cares and nannies. My preference would be hire a nanny, but we’ll see what happens.

It’s really funny to discuss nannies with the SWPLs in my neighborhood. In general, they don’t want to hire black nannies, but they don’t want to admit that they don’t want to hire black nannies. There is one exception to this – it appears that people are willing (and eager) to hire black nannies if the nannies have recently immigrated from Africa.

The easiest way to weed out American black nannies is to require that the nanny know a second language – even it’s some obscure African language.

In the park, when you look at the nannies with kids, the nannies naturally break into three groups: Hispanics, American blacks, and African blacks.

Finally, I’ll note that an incredible number of otherwise law-abiding SWPLs – mostly lawyers and government employees too! – also have nannies that they pay off-the-books.


7 Responses to Nanny

  1. Jehu says:

    I’d check your local church—there’s a good chance you can find someone suitable there, depending on how long you need the extra help for. Missionary chicks between missions are a good deal also, as they’re also usually looking for temporary housing too and you can count that as part of their wages. A frequent pattern for them is to go on mission until their support runs out, then take a part time job or the like while they build up support for their next mission, and repeat until they find a suitable husband.

  2. josh says:

    Day care gets a bad rap. I felt guilty beforehand, but I definitely think it was the right choice.

    My 19 month old is in the toddler group at her daycare. There are slightly older kids to emulate, so she is already off diapers, mastered her shapes and colors, recognizes most letters, etc. She also has a great time and the arts and crafts projects that don’t make a mess in my house.

    Her primary day care “teacher” is a French speaking black African, a very nice lady.

    • Foseti says:

      I’m not necessarily opposed to day care either. The nanny would be more convenient in some aspects, which is why we’re considering it. It seems like people like nannies more if they can get (and keep) a good one, but otherwise day care is better.

  3. YR says:

    Ha, my mom, GS-14, pays all sorts of people off the books. Also, why not have your wife stay home? I like jehu’s idea too

  4. Obsidian says:

    How come your wife can’t stay home with the baby, especially seeing that it is a baby?


    • Foseti says:

      She could but she’ll keep working for a while. She wants to put in a couple more years before stopping. That’ll make it easier to go back once the kids are grown.

  5. Ulysses says:

    We use daycare for a variety of reasons that aren’t germane to this discussion, but, like Josh, I’ve been pleasantly surprised. On the way home one day, my older, who was just 2.5 at the time, counted to ten in English, then Spanish, then French. She also gets to burn a lot of energy and play with other kids. Most days she’s racing to get out the door and to her friends.

    On the minus side, which is in someways a long-term plus, expect a lot of initial illness. Daycare is a germ warfare lab. Once they get beyond the inoculation phase, they are hearty. The inoculation phase can be rough. My younger caught RSV when she first started and ended up spending a week in the hospital. Meningitis was a possibility. She’s fine, but it might not have happened sans daycare. (No guarantee on that. RSV is a piddly cold in adults and toddlers and most likely she caught the RSV from her older sister, not daycare.)

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